It's all about tradition...or is it?!?!
When you hear the word wedding, it’s almost synonymous with tradition. There are many traditions that your friends, family, and even strangers will tell you “you must” follow when you are planning your wedding. This can be very frustrating to today’s bride. I say, it’s 2015, it’s your wedding, do what makes you and your significant other happy! Below I have listed a few traditions, some history and a few alternatives.
1.) Wearing your mother’s wedding dress
In this day and age, most mothers wouldn’t dream of asking their daughter to wear their dress, but this tradition occasionally gets brought up. You love mom and certainly want her to be happy, but not at the expense of your bridal fashion. There are a few ways to honor your mother and still make your own statement. Wear her veil, a headpiece, or (if she’s willing to let you) take a piece of her dress and make it a sash for yours or even try and incorporate it into your bouquet. This will be something that will highlight your special bond without having to compromise your own sense of style.
2.) Having your father walk you down the aisle and “give you away”
Many years ago, this was the father’s duty as his daughter was his property and he was giving her and her dowry to the groom’s family. Thank goodness women are no longer property, but this is still a wonderful way to honor the person who has been there for you. If, in your case, that wasn’t Dad, then by all means have your mom, aunt, uncle, brother, or whomever that special person is in your life make the journey down the aisle with you. If you want to walk down the aisle by yourself, do so, it’s your day and you should have no regrets.
3.) Having a wedding cake
This is a tradition that dates back all the way to ancient Rome. Today we are seeing many alternatives to wedding cakes. Choose what you and your fiancé like. Maybe its donuts, maybe its cupcakes, pies, or maybe it’s an ice cream sundae bar. You don’t have a sweet tooth? Have a wedding cake made entirely of wheels of cheese and have a wine and cheese tasting!
4.) Bouquet and Garter toss
This is the tradition I have seen most frequently omitted from wedding receptions recently. Some people do not like to have their fiancé crawl up their leg in public to remove the garter. Some women don’t want to wear a garter at all. A lot of couples are waiting a little longer to get married today and do not have a lot of single friends at their reception to catch the bouquet or garter. A cute alternative to the bouquet toss is an anniversary dance, where you have all the couples in the room dance and the couple who has been together the longest remains dancing and you give them the “bouquet.”
5.) “Thank You”
This is the one tradition that will never go out of style. There are a lot of people who have worked really hard to make your big day a huge success and they deserve a quick note to show how much you appreciate them. Of course all of your guests deserve a thank you, but don’t forget your significant other, your parents, and your bridal party. Whether they helped plan, pay, or were just a part of the celebration, be sure to show your love and gratitude.
I hope these few traditions I have outlined here have sparked a great conversation about your wedding planning! If you take only one piece of information from this article, I would like it to be this, “It is YOUR day"! Do it how YOU want to! (but remember to thank all of the great people who helped!)” I thoroughly enjoyed writing this and it really made me think of many more traditions that I could write about, so I can foresee a part two to this entry. If you can think of any other traditions and how they have changed and evolved over the years, be sure to comment below!
Until next time! Happy Planning!
- The Leading Lady